about grief.
"In the end, all this grief and sorrow serve as a reminder of how blessed I am to be able to love so strongly in this life...this feeling of great loss comes from having had something great to lose."
Grief has been on my mind lately.
I suppose it’s due to recent occurrences in my family, and my fascination with “On Death and Dying” by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross.
For the longest time, I thought I had a good understanding of the feeling because how different could it be from the usual sorrow?
Years ago, when this feeling was nothing but a distant stranger to me, I imagined grief to simply be this very sad feeling after losing a loved one.
I now know that there’s so much more to it than that. It’s heavy, static, and unbearable. It’s screaming in anguish but staying silent—it’s tearing you apart but at the same time the overwhelming weight of it all forces your broken pieces back together.
You can grieve a loved one’s death. You can grieve for someone you’ve never met. You can grieve for someone who was once your friend but is no longer.
You can grieve because of empathy. You can grieve for a pet, a plant, or a home-cooked meal.
You can grieve for yourself.
You can grieve for a feeling, a moment, a memory.
You can grieve for anything you love.
“If you go and dance at a lot of weddings,
you’ll cry at a lot of funerals.
If you were at the beginning of many moments,
you’ll be there when they end.”
-“Life Lessons” by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
“Life Lessons” is a book that taught me a lot, but this quote changed how I view life.
For in life, as much as you feel joy you will feel sorrow. For as much laughter fills your house, so will tears. After all, what is light without its shadow?
In the end, all this grief and sorrow serve as a reminder of how blessed I am to be able to love so strongly in this life. It hurts, yes, but this feeling of great loss comes from having had something great to lose—and I will be forever grateful for that.
Don't miss me.
But I still hear your voice in the wind.I have nothing left.
But I would have given you everything
had I not been so blind.Don't grieve. I’m free now.
But it’s okay to grieve.
That’s how we know we loved.- J.Y. Amaryllis
